As your heart protector, here are some common sense safety tips when you think he’s different: First, meet in a public place.
Captivated, I invited her to dinner at my house that evening. While I ate my dinner, she drank hers — then refused to leave. My acquaintance of 12 hours bizarrely insisted that we were living together.While it's not always practical to become friends before dating someone, try to get to know your date through a group activity or a double-date before you go solo.You'll see how your date-to-be gets along with others, and you'll get some good clues about what to expect from them.The situation felt menacing — would I find a rabbit stew boiling on the stove? Certain queries can reveal a lot of info in a short amount of time about a person you've just met. As I learned the hard way with my would-be Glenn Close, it's unwise to welcome anyone into your abode unless you know them well.— so I summoned my next-door neighbor, a woman, for help. There isn't much privacy, but you'll be grateful for the presence of others if an unpleasant situation develops. I once had a coffee date with a woman who grew increasingly angry — and vocal — over her mistreatment by an ex-boyfriend. If a coffee date shows up with a bad attitude, a bad temper or a foul mouth, head for the door. You might ask, for example, if your date has close friends: A "yes" indicates he or she is capable of connecting with others; a "no" suggests a lack of intimacy skills. If you're unsure, consider asking another couple to join you.If you can't hang out in a group before your first date, try to talk on the phone before you make plans to go out.